Are you making the most of who you are? (Part 2)
In Part 1 we set the scene for making lists of your skills, strengths and personal qualities. I also introduced an exercise to provide you with external feedback.
So what did you find?
- Were there common strengths that crossed over different areas of your life?
- Were there strengths, skills or qualities that others recognised in you, which you had on your list too?
- Were there any surprises?
- Has this boosted your confidence in any areas?
Interpreting the results from the ‘Ask 6 People …’ exercise
So, hopefully you gained a range of responses from this. Here’s what to do with them …
1. Look for common trends / themes
perhaps more than one person said the same thing, or there were different comments but around a common theme. How can you use this to enhance or support your own list of skills / strengths?
For example, sometimes this exercise can highlight a skill others notice in you, which you don’t see as a strength … “It’s just the norm; it’s what I usually do” … are examples of how people have responded to this outcome. Changing your perception of this area as a strength can be a good confidence booster. It can also provide you with a further area to make the most of!
2. Be aware that the odd negative comment
… by a family member might be more about their agenda than yours. For example, a parent / sibling may say you don’t visit often enough.
3. Look at areas where you can stretch yourself.
Perhaps, for example, there’s a comment that you are good at leading meetings at work, and could be even better if you just had a bit more confidence.
4. Where people have suggested what you could do less of (question 4), is this something you can delegate?
As Ellen Degeneres once said, “sometimes you can’t see yourself clearly until you see yourself through the eyes of others.” This exercise is good for highlighting this, but needs to be acknowledged alongside your own observations. So let’s turn to these.
Interpreting your list of strengths, from different areas of your life
For each item on your list, ask yourself how often you get the opportunity to show / use this. Are you satisfied with this, or could you find more opportunities?
Example 1: If your time management at work is good, could you transfer this skill-set to your home-life (or vice versa) ?
Example 2: If you’re good at writing or being creative, how often do you have time to do this? Is it enough? How else could you maximise it? Could you offer to do some writing for someone else in return for them providing something you need (skills-swap) ?
There may be some strengths, skills or qualities you have which you don’t want to do more of, as these would be more about meeting others’ needs and ignoring your own. Be mindful of these.
Philosopher Bertrand Russell said, “anything you’re good at contributes to happiness“. So what other benefits do we find when we make the most of what we’re good at? When I apply this exercise to myself the outcomes for me are:
- I feel more confident
- I have a more positive outlook
- I am more motivated / more productive
- I have more energy
For me, maximising my potential is also about developing myself, as well as others. It’s about a level of self-awareness about my personal strengths and knowing what my emerging strengths are that I could further develop. I then use this knowledge to set appropriate goals.
What are the benefits you’ve found from this exercise, or maximising your potential in other ways?
Would love to hear your thoughts / experiences. Feel free to comment below.
I’m Debbie Inglis, a performance coach, mentor and trainer, working with Heads, Principals, School leaders and their teams to maximise leadership performance, create more effective, confident, and motivated teams … in a way that brings out the best in you.